The reaction of the heart is one that is emotional and almost uncontrollable, despite the certainty & logic of your mind. It is hard to act on what you think is logical but it is not impossible. And as such, it is always easier to thrive on the feelings of the heart because it “feels good” at the moment, and not the mind when it causes you strife. That’s why it is important to take time and space from the situation you are in and evaluate “Is this what I really want? Is this what I really need? Is this causing me more frustration than it is instilling joy”? And if the answer to all three is undoubtedly “yes” then consider that although your heart is at the right place and it feels so right, your mind is telling you otherwise and you should heed its fair warning. But then you say, “love is never easy” and perhaps it deserves waiting or “waiting it out” – I would evaluate whether you can consider this love when the other person can hold you back and let you fall harder in love when they have no intentions to reciprocate at the time. If they know that this is what you need and want and cannot offer it to you, the honest thing to do is to be truthful and transparent. Your mind then needs to convince your heart that this is the case and move on. A few months ago, I asked myself “Mind can conquer of matters, but can it really conquer over matters of the heart?” The answer then would have been no. But if you ask me now, the mind and heart can conquer over all matters, if you really wanted & believed they could by committing to truth of your mind’s logic.
A smart friend once told me, “Judge a man by his actions and not by his words”. Are his actions one that demonstrate love, kindness and what you deserve in return for your love? Are you in an unparalleled situation where you are giving more than is being reciprocated? Have confidence in yourself that you are someone worth being loved, cherished and valued and believe your mind when it says, that you deserve more, because you do.
The theme song of my life that I leave you with today: Kelly Clarkson – Miss Independent
#1 by Satish on August 6, 2009 - 3:42 pm
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Hells… yeah.
#2 by jen on October 5, 2009 - 1:51 pm
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If I hadn’t had known better, I thought you were speaking directly to me. Especially in the last paragraph. Thank you.
#3 by angielim on October 5, 2009 - 2:05 pm
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Hi Jen, it’s nice to know that emotions of the heart are not felt alone. I hope that you are getting the love you deserve & realize the value you are worth because you are worth it. Would love to share stories one day.
#4 by Betty on December 6, 2009 - 9:29 pm
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I could not have stumbled on this blog post at a better time. I really needed this right now. Thank you.
#5 by Angie Lim on December 7, 2009 - 11:56 am
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Hi Betty,
Thank you for your comment – as a writer, it brings me joy to know that these human emotions are universal & through sharing we can help each other through them. I hope everything is going well for you & know that the love you have for yourself is something that no one can ever take away.
with love,
angie
#6 by Andrew! on June 7, 2010 - 8:27 pm
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Where was this last summer – I needed to hear this last summer Angie
. The mind is a radical thing that has a hard time agreeing with the heart unfortunately. I say unfortunately because when the two can’t agree, it’s never a good situation.
“Are you in an unparalleled situation where you are giving more than is being reciprocated?” I was, can I say never again?…I hope so…
P.S. your writing is fantastic!
#7 by Angie Lim on June 7, 2010 - 10:06 pm
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Thanks for taking the time to read my blog! I write from the heart and really glad that you understand where it all stems from, makes me glad to know that our emotions and feelings are united across all human kind and if we take the time to really listen to each other – we would know that all feelings are alike and nothing can’t be understood.
I can always tell you more – I am ALWAYS here for you, just hit me up (at least before I leave)